Hello again,

As you may have noticed, AfroMartha was down for a couple of weeks. There were some behind the scenes technical issues, but all is well now.

There have been a lot of changes in my life while I was away. Too many to go into details here…

During my bloggy sabbatical I found the passion and energy to complete a lot of projects around my home.

Remember these chairs?

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Well, I turned them into these:

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Well, the one on the left with the red frame. It had first given them the yellow frame as on the right, but they didn’t look right to me, so red it is! The fabric? A certain Target shower curtain!

The chairs now match my warm colorful room much better.

The biggest change in my life is that I have gone to work full-time for an Insurance company. Insurance is a field I worked in right out of college when I couldn’t secure a Design position. I did well at it and rather enjoyed it. I recently had the opportunity to go back into that field since Design wasn’t working out to well for me as a career.

While I do still enjoy my creativity, I did get burned out with trying to monetize it. I have come to the understanding that it’s something I enjoy doing for myself, not necessarily as a profession.

I have found that for me, the pressure to monetize usually sucks the joy out of doing what I truly enjoy.

So here I am…less free time, but with more creative freedom and passion.

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PICT0400In my attempt to fill up my shop, it seems I’ve got a bit of a sweatshop situation going on.  I’m crocheting with every spare moment not devoted to family and household or my part time gig. I even have a portable sweatshop that I carry with me in the event that I have some time while, oh, standing in line…visiting a friend…waiting at the doctor’s office for the kids’ checkups, you get the idea.

Now, before anyone gets bent out of shape about my ‘sweatshop’, let me clarify that mine doesn’t involve child labor. Well, unless you count my daughter. No, really I’m just kidding. No really, the girl likes to work, but more on that later. Nope, just me crocheting away for hours on end in my very hot house.

Anywhoo, like I said, I’m trying to fill my shop up, and by fill, I mean REALLY fill, as in more than the 5 earrings it has right now.  Well, with all this sitting down to crochet, I had to have some sort of background entertainment, right? Since I’ve run out of episodes of “This American Life” to listen to. Current affairs (as in news radio) has made me too serious of late. I don’t really feel like an audiobook right now. Tired of my Pandora stations, and the radio is a no (Is that what passes for music these days???) I decided to lively up myself with some TV. I’ve run out of episodes of Grey’s, Modern Family, and the very short-lived “10 things I hate about you (Yeah, I said it, what!) So I’ve turned my attention to Hulu and Netflix to find new and undiscovered shows to entertain me while working.

Enter “Being Erica”.  I just recently discovered this show, and I gotta tell ya, I’m loving this Canadian gem. I’m about 5 episodes into season 1, and I’m hooked.  The premise of the show is this: Erica, a 32year-old woman has allowed the regret over a lifetime of bad decisions cloud her life and prevent her from living her best life. Notice that it’s not so much the actual DECISIONS, but the REGRET over them that hang over her. Of course because it’s TV, she gets a chance at some do-overs. The existential question at the heart of the show is this: would your life really be different if you had a chance to do it over? If you could go back in time and fix your perceived mistakes, would you get the same results, or would your life be better? 


I understand that this smacks of “Back to the Future,” “Quantum Leap”, the “The Voyagers” and other time travel shows that came before, but I really like  this shows take on the story.

This show resonates with me because to some degree, I’m a bit like Erica.  Of course my life is not overshadowed by regret to the degree of Erica’s, but I do have quite a few coulda-shoulda-wouldas lurking in my past. And really, who doesn’t? I guess watching this fictional character work through her past and see the results of her do-over is therapeutic.  I get to live vicariously through her. Through it all, the message is this: for better or for worse, you are the sum of your choices. The sum total of our experiences shape who we are. I can live with that.

Wanna check it out? “Being Erica” is currently streaming on Hulu. Be sure to let me know what you think!